"Assumptions are the death of a relationship. If you think you know what’s going on inside someone else’s head, think again. We imagine that love gives us the power to read one another’s mind, when all we are really doing is reading our own. It’s a great self-defense mechanism but no substitute for actual communication. The very best way to know what’s really on someone’s mind is also the riskiest: you have to ask them."
Tonya Hurley (via nemurae)
Alternately, expecting someone to read your mind is equally disastrous. (via girl-in-a-well)
"There are some things about myself that I can’t explain to anyone. There are some things I don’t understand at all. I can’t tell what I think about things or what I’m after. I don’t know what my strengths are or what I’m supposed to do about them. But if I start thinking about these things in too much detail, the whole thing gets scary. And if I get scared, I can only think about myself. I become really self-centered, and without meaning to, I hurt people. So I’m not such a wonderful human being."
— Haruki Murakami, A Slow Boat To China
"I do not believe that just because you’re opposed to abortion, that that makes you pro-life. In fact, I think in many cases, your morality is deeply lacking if all you want is a child born but not a child fed, not a child educated, not a child housed. And why would I think that you don’t? Because you don’t want any tax money to go there. That’s not pro-life. That’s pro-birth. We need a much broader conversation on what the morality of pro-life is."
Sister Joan Chittister, Catholic Nun (via timehasflewn)
holy shit i love this quote (via glitter-femin1sts)
I vote we stop using the term “pro-life” and change to “pro-birth”, and every time someone asks “What does that mean?”, you can explain this and the other racialized, classist, misogynist, body policing, rape culture reinforcing bullshit behind “pro-life” dogma. (via lebanesepoppyseed)
"I will always care about things I shouldn’t, but that’s a good way of making sure I don’t miss caring about something important."
now for something a bit off topic.
Equality for all.
"And no one is right because — get this — everyone is right. All the time. By that I mean one’s thoughts about the world are correct. If you believe the world is dark and frightening and people are not to be trusted, you will seek out evidence to confirm this and that will be what you call ‘reality.’ If you believe the world to be forgiving and ordered and shot through with grace, you will seek out evidence to confirm this and that will be what you call ‘reality.’"